Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Addendum:

I almost forgot to mention we got our first "real" Christmas tree this year! Merry Christmas everyone!


We also treated ourselves to a new TV for Christmas. The 26" LED LCD is a major upgrade from the basic Walmart TV I took along to college 10 years ago (and we were still using until last week). Merry Christmas to us! :)

Dear Blog...

November was a fun month. We took a trip to WI to surprise my family for Thanksgiving. I have not been home for Thanksgiving since I moved to Utah 5 years ago, so my family really didn’t expect us to be there, giving us the perfect opportunity to surprise them. We purchased our plane tickets mid-September and managed to keep our secret safe all the way to Thanksgiving! I talk to my mom every day, so there was more than once that I almost slipped up myself and gave it all away. The closest call we came to our secret being blown was when my friend Larissa’s dad (who happens to be a federal milk inspector) made a routine visit to my parents’ farm and told my parents he thought Larissa was having dinner with me over Thanksgiving. My parents, who were totally in the dark, were convinced he was just confused and thinking of some other friend of Larissa. Lucky us!

We flew to the Minneapolis-St. Paul airport on the evening before Thanksgiving—luckily missing the blizzard on both ends of the trip. Thanksgiving day we picked up our rental car and drove the 4 hours to dinner at my Dad’s cousin’s house. This was the first actual holiday we have spent with my Dad’s side since getting married—so that was very fun—lots of food, chit-chat, and general relaxing to be had.

Friday night we went out with friends. Going out with friends has changed over the years. I spent most of dinner holding a 3-month-old, while a 3-year-old and 15-month-old did their best to squirm and flirt with all of those around us. Larissa’s children (20mos & 3mos) were with daddy for the night, or the children in the group would have nearly outnumbered the adults! Dinner was so much fun, but I wonder when we all grew up. After asking if I had any surprise news worth making a surprise trip for, my great friend Andy informed me he figured I was coming home to announce that we were expecting a baby. After informing him that this was not yet the case he said he was going to keep telling people I was pregnant anyway. :) Old friends are the best.

Saturday my mom’s side of the family got together for their 2nd Thanksgiving dinner! They had scheduled Thanksgiving dinner for the Sunday before the holiday, in order to make things easier on my aunt and cousins who work at a holiday store at the mall (as you can imagine it’s CRAZY there during Black Friday weekend). We couldn’t move the holiday without tipping off my parents that we were coming, so we decided to see if everyone would be willing to gather again the Saturday after Thanksgiving. Once we arrived and surprised my parents, it dawned on my mother that my grandmother had invited them to dinner Saturday not just because she was being nice, but because everyone was getting together again in honor of our visit! My family is the best!!

Jason said our visit was just the way a vacation should be: warmer weather (than Utah at least), lots of food, not too much running around, and plenty of friends and family to chat with.

In other exciting news, my parents will be spending Christmas in Utah this year!! I suggested they visit, partly as a diversion from our Thanksgiving trip, but never thought they would actually make it happen! Please pray for good travelling weather for them. They will be arriving on the 22nd and leaving on the 29th. My mom says in 34 years of marriage she can’t remember ever taking a trip like this for Christmas, where they won’t have to milk and feed cows. Luckily they have good help that’s willing to work for them even on Christmas, and my brother will be staying close to home in case anything unexpected should arise.

Thanks to my brother Jim who helped give my laptop a total life makeover (i.e. new hard drive and operating system) during our visit. Thanks to the Kahler’s, Spankowski’s, Larissa, KTP, and all the family who forced themselves to have a 2nd Thanksgiving dinner just to see us! Every time we visit I am reminded what amazing friends I have gathered through the years. If we missed you this time, perhaps we’ll see you next time…which looks like it will be late May. See you then!

S.~

Monday, December 13, 2010

Christmas Letter 2010 (written by Jason)

2010 was a fascinating and busy year, including everything from above average travelling to urban skunks and raccoons. We started the year with a visit to the frozen WI countryside in January—my first winter visit to the Midwest. The thermometer in our rental car had negative numbers and single digits showing on it most of the time. Although it was fun to visit and see the farm in a different season, I don’t think I would handle being that frozen all winter long.


In May I was able to visit Cambodia and Singapore as part of an international context trip to complete my MBA program. It was interesting to compare the history and trials of third world Cambodia with the very first world Singapore. While travelling through Cambodia I was amazed at the ingenuity that is inspired by great need, and realized how many things we take for granted here in the United States. The differences in culture and environment were incredible, not to mention the history that has occurred in that part of the world. I definitely have a goal of going back someday, if for no better reason than to show Steph around.

After returning from my world travelling adventure, my first summer of contract work for the Forest Service began in earnest. It was an ongoing learning experience throughout the summer for everyone helping get the project done. We rapidly discovered we were in charge of pattern searching some of the steepest and roughest parts of the forest still navigable on foot. Each of the three areas we covered had 3000 feet of elevation change end to end, and in the process of traversing these mountainsides I wore the rubber completely off the inside corners of a new pair of hiking boots. I also wore out a pair of leather gloves and multiple pairs of jeans simply walking around. We managed to cover over 4000 acres during the summer, with no major mishaps. Luckily my regular day job was willing to let me work reduced hours during their summer slow time, which gave me a very different schedule with 3 days in town and 2-3 days four hours away in the forest each week. Steph did not particularly enjoy this schedule with all of my time away; especially when busyness at her job and a temporary stint in a walking boot limited her from coming along.

Having this contract was an interesting educational experience, especially after spending several years in an MBA program learning about running and growing a business. I had the opportunity to bid on a new contract for 2011, and despite my best efforts to the contrary, I somehow won the dubious low bid honors again. Steph was highly disappointed with my successful bid, and I doubt I will be bidding as the primary person in charge again in the near future. The area I have for next year is slightly larger than this year, but considerably friendlier terrain to walk across. Having a lot of the learning curve from the first contract out of the way should help, and hopefully Steph will be able to enjoy some hiking with me this summer.

During July, Steph and I again visited Wisconsin. Steph’s brother flew out to accompany her in driving her previous car (which had been sold to her parents) back to Wisconsin, and I flew in a few days later. We joked that we had sent the car to spend the rest of its days “on a farm in the country”, and on our subsequent visit we noted it appeared be happily adjusted to its new home. The trip was planned to coincide with the DeBaets family reunion (Steph’s mom’s side), so we were able to visit with a lot of family during our otherwise short trip that we hadn’t seen since our wedding. We capped the weekend off by watching a really nice 4th of July fireworks show over a small pond in the neighboring town of LaValle. Having grown up watching fireworks and going to small-town festivals in Utah, I noted that this fireworks show was not the smallest I had attended, but perhaps the most intoxicated I had seen. 

Later that same month I learned Steph had led a deprived life, having never attended an actual rodeo. Since it had been many years since I had attended a rodeo myself, we took advantage of the Days of ‘47 Rodeo in Salt Lake. This is a large event that coincides with the anniversary of Utah obtaining statehood, and is on the professional rodeo circuit. We watched the cowboys and cowgirls compete in many entertaining and physically demanding events, and were reminded why sometimes it is better to have a desk job.

We spent the better part of summer trying to decide what was snatching goldfish from our front yard pond. After trying out several ways to deter the intruders, including solar lights and a surveillance camera, we settled on the fact that we most likely had a raccoon that enjoyed late-night swims. This was highly frustrating, and partially due to Steph not wanting to risk decreasing the neighborhood cat population, we still haven’t come up with a great solution. Perhaps even more exciting was a wayward skunk we discovered trapped in one of our window wells one evening after work. After gingerly lowering in a plank for him to climb out on, we were relieved to find no trace of him the next morning. We never thought that living in the heart of Salt Lake City we’d have so many animal adventures!

All of our yard work was a pleasantly surprising success. The lawn Steph tilled and seeded last fall has come in great, and there were abundant comments from the neighbors about Steph’s flowerbeds. The heirloom tomato project for the garden provided more tomatoes than we knew what to do with, even after giving over half of our original 40+ seedlings to friends and family in the spring. Now with the weather cold, we are just finishing off the last of some of the other successful crops like carrots and parsnips. Winter has brought an interesting change as we remember all the projects we want to complete inside the house again. (Steph is remembering this list far faster than I would like, but it guarantees we won’t be bored ever.)

Steph spent more time at the dentist this year than she would have liked. She had a baby tooth with no adult tooth to replace it and decided now was as good of a time as any to have it replaced with a dental implant/crown. She spent the later part of the year racing her father to see who could get back to a full set of teeth first. I believe he won the race, but only by a matter of days. Dental work is expensive, but it is still absolutely incredible to think about what can be done to improve quality of life. (Eating is an important part of life quality if you ask me.)

Our final visit to Wisconsin for the year was an event to remember. We surprised Steph’s parents by showing up for Thanksgiving. This is the first time I have managed to get to Wisconsin three times in one year, and my first visit over an actual Thanksgiving holiday on Steph’s dad’s side. Most of the family knew we were coming, but the secret was kept from Bruce and Laura, with the desired surprise being evident when they were confronted by Steph grinning ear to ear at a relative’s house just before dinner was served. Everyone was able to compare teeth, eat wonderful food for several days straight, and we considered it a successful surprise trip. We discovered that Wisconsin was actually warmer than Utah this year over the holiday weekend, and it made for one of the few times we could enjoy the warm WI weather during a winter holiday. It was great catching up with everyone, and provided a much needed break.

We returned to single digit temperatures and over a foot of snow in Salt Lake, which was a dramatic difference from the 30’s and 40’s we had enjoyed on the farm. After some intense shoveling efforts, things are back to normal and Christmas preparations are under way. We have a real Christmas tree for the first time this year, and Kiki is enjoying playing with the ornaments anytime she can get away with it. We’re looking forward to Steph’s parents spending Christmas in Utah this year and getting a much needed holiday break from the cows and the farm.

We hope this note finds all of you happy and healthy. Best wishes for good things in 2011!

Jason & Stephanie Baxter

Clarity

As many of you already know, work for me lately has been just that...work. The variation in my day to day job I loved when I started 5 years ago has slowly eroded until I've found myself sitting in front of my computer tracking data 8 hours a day--day in day out. It's not even so much the tracking data that's gotten to me, it's that all of my options for doing something "different" still involve staring at the same computer screen. All the computer time has taken a toll on my body. My neck and back have had somewhat ongoing issues and I've gotten grumpier, fatter, and more disillusioned with work over the course of the past year or two. I updated my resume recently, and realized the last time I felt this way (and thus updated my resume) was July of 2009. In my annual performance review this year my boss wrote that I am an "invaluable asset" to our lab. I didn't tell him at the time, but I couldn't feel more like a cog in a wheel.

Time to change something. Anything.

So I updated my resume, searched job postings, and even sat for an interview. I made lists, trying to weigh the positives and negatives of my current predicament, as well as my wishes for future employment. I analyzed what I could change about my current situation to make it better. I got permission from my husband (more than once) to quit my job, considered starting a family, and considered dropping out of school. If anything I was thorough.
So what did I decide? I decided that for a number of reasons I don't enjoy working in the lab anymore and made this clear to my boss. We've agreed that I need to reduce my hours this Spring to finish school...not just pretend to reduce my hours as I've previously tried. Once my thesis is finished, I'd really like to go back to training athletes and helping in the office...this made me the happiest before, and hopefully will once again--at least in the short term. I'm going to stop trying to guess what I'll be doing 5 years from now, and just work on 5 months from now. After all, if 5 years ago someone would have told me I'd end up in Utah married to a nice Mormon boy I would have laughed in their faces.
I don't know if this new direction will work in solving the frustration I've been dealing with lately, but I don't think it can hurt. Only time will tell. Thanks as always for all the support.
S.~